I think the biggest thing that has changed is that feeling that everything will be OK, and that bad things don’t happen to my family or people I know. Because now we know they do. My sense of safety and trust in the world has been upended. Heartbreak happens, and traumatic and anguishing calls do come in the middle of the night. At the same time, my sense of the shortness and the value of life has been gifted to me. The gift given by those loved ones who go before us is the reminder that life is short. Be happy. Love one another. Help each other up. Make a difference. You only have one life, so really live it.