My ex-wife, after several years out of marriage, found herself with a house, husband and two sons that she loved but also hated. She had very low self-esteem and did not effectively communicate her concerns to people who loved her. One day it all came to a head as she became very agitated and out of control. Late that night, as I slept in bed, she shot me in the head. The bullet was a magnum higher powered projectile and so went straight through just below the brain, lodging in the opposite side of my skull rather than moving up in the direction of least resistance into my brain. I refused a request to press charges because I cared for her and felt guilty that I obviously couldn’t figure it all out. Also, jail time would do no good for our sons. She spent two months in a psychiatric facility and got some old, unresolved family-of-origin issues identified. The doctors said she would have either killed herself or harmed someone she cared about to change her old patterns. We remained married for an additional 10 years with some of her old patterns still haunting her.